Validation

Caption to Photo: “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in awhile, you could miss it.” (Ferris Bueller’s Day Off)

If I had to define validation, I would probably say it is the accomplishment of something that someone appreciates. I don’t what got me started thinking about this, but I honestly can’t remember the last time I felt like I was appreciated or validated for something that I did. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not about the “thank you” because that’s not what I’m really talking about, what I’m talking about is the validation that you get for a job well done. I love my job, it is very tiring, and it is very stressful, and every action that I take has the potential to be a life-changing decision, especially if it leads to malpractice. So, with all of these factors, I hardly have the time or the effort to truly feel like my work is validated. If I had to guess, I would imagine that none of us really feel validated for the jobs we do. I think what this all comes down to is that we all do things without really being recognized, and I think that we’ve all accepted that. In retrospect (all of five minutes), I’m not a good writer and I don’t get my point across very well.

Ashley T. asked me why I changed my calendar and I have had more problems with calendars than with anything else with this blog. Kiko had a nice interface and was very simple to use, but when I updated my calendar with a new event it didn’t translate to my blog. Thus you see the new calendar, 30boxes. I like this calendar better, it recognizes birthdays and repeats them ad naseum, as well as anniversaries. The biggest thing that you should be asking yourselves is why do I care so much about a calendar. My job with this little project is to make it as neat and read-able as possible. I want people to have no issues interacting with any of the little widgets I have on either side of this page. Simplicity.

I have other pictures of the Oklahoma City Memorial posted on Flickr that you should check out, if you enjoyed the other pictures.

Future plans for Puppy Dog Blue: Taking one of the 43 places I want to go and exploring them a little further. I think they’re being ignored.

Finally, with the NBA Finals coming up, please read Maverick Moneyball. It’s a really good website with lots of Maverick articles linked all nice and neat.

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3 thoughts on “Validation

  1. Thanks for the new calendar. It’s not as attractive, but at least it works!!

  2. Roni,
    I took a leave of absence last week, so to speak. I bit my lip (really) and got a serious bacterial infection. Now, I know that doesn’t sound like much, but it hurt like hell. It had me ranking the pains I have had in my life: 1. Laceration to knee- joint w/ snake bite on hand just before bar exam, 2. absess/infection on impacted wisdom tooth w/ ingrown toenail, 3. bacterial infection to lip with kankor sores around infected area, 4. getting my broke wrist set with no anesthetic, 5. dry socket after 2nd wisdom tooth was cut out. Anyhoo, after two trips to the hospital, I am on the road to recovery.

    Mavs are looking pretty good right now. ESPN commentators can kiss my ass. Miami ain’t going to win in 6, bitches.

    In my opinion, you are looking for validation in the wrong places. Sure, a portion of what we do should provide validation, but the validation you should seek is in how you conduct your life. The reflection of your impact on the world, despite the size of your world (my world is pretty small), is the place to seek validation. Are you a good son? brother? husband? human? It would be rare that we are able to find the validation you speak of, because in fact, we rarely know how much we impact our world, for better or worse. It is much like faith in God, in that you have to trust an believe in its truth, as there cannot be ultimate validation until our death.

    To me, you have always been hyper-analytical and hyper self-critical. Always giving yourself too little credit. While the day is now over a year ago, in my speech at your wedding, I focused on my admiration of how you lived your life. While I am not a client, spouse or family, truer words have not been spoken, even if they did come from a lawyer. Despite the separation of time and space, there are times that I draw on examples you have set in living my own life. I certainly doubt that i’m the only one. I believe I remember a post from anonymous, aka Little T or TJ, commenting on your impact on him. You won’t find new tennis shoes in a swimming pool, so why look there?

  3. Roni,
    I took a leave of absence last week, so to speak. I bit my lip (really) and got a serious bacterial infection. Now, I know that doesn’t sound like much, but it hurt like hell. It had me ranking the pains I have had in my life: 1. Laceration to knee- joint w/ snake bite on hand just before bar exam, 2. absess/infection on impacted wisdom tooth w/ ingrown toenail, 3. bacterial infection to lip with kankor sores around infected area, 4. getting my broke wrist set with no anesthetic, 5. dry socket after 2nd wisdom tooth was cut out. Anyhoo, after two trips to the hospital, I am on the road to recovery.

    Mavs are looking pretty good right now. ESPN commentators can kiss my ass. Miami ain’t going to win in 6, bitches.

    In my opinion, you are looking for validation in the wrong places. Sure, a portion of what we do should provide validation, but the validation you should seek is in how you conduct your life. The reflection of your impact on the world, despite the size of your world (my world is pretty small), is the place to seek validation. Are you a good son? brother? husband? human? It would be rare that we are able to find the validation you speak of, because in fact, we rarely know how much we impact our world, for better or worse. It is much like faith in God, in that you have to trust an believe in its truth, as there cannot be ultimate validation until our death.

    To me, you have always been hyper-analytical and hyper self-critical. Always giving yourself too little credit. While the day is now over a year ago, in my speech at your wedding, I focused on my admiration of how you lived your life. While I am not a client, spouse or family, truer words have not been spoken, even if they did come from a lawyer. Despite the separation of time and space, there are times that I draw on examples you have set in living my own life. I certainly doubt that i’m the only one. I believe I remember a post from anonymous, aka Little T or TJ, commenting on your impact on him. You won’t find new tennis shoes in a swimming pool, so why look there?

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